Healing Hearts: Moms Struggling to Connect with Their Teen

Remember those times when your teenagers were infants. You were their entire world. My daughters clung to every word I said and followed me around the house all day. I cherished being

their mama! I miss those days when I could hug and kiss away all their hurts and worries.

I remember when one of my daughters was in middle school, she started to distance herself.

The things she loved as a young girl no longer interested her. I so missed her being my little girl who always wanted to be by my side.

One day during that period, we were at our friends' house helping with yard work. My

friend, Pam prepared lunch and observed a brief interaction between my daughter and me. She

smiled at me and said, "Don't worry, mom, she'll come back around." She didn't realize

how much her words encouraged me. The interaction was brief, but my feelings were

hurt, and she noticed it. She was a mom who had already guided three children through the

"fun" teen season. :) So, she understood the ache in my heart. I have since learned how right she

was!

Those middle school years can be challenging for both your teen and you. Your teen is growing up and becoming the person God intended them to be. They are developing more independence in their thinking and understanding the world around them. They may experience hurt, rejection, anxiety, or just confusion during this time. But, don't be disheartened. Keep praying and holding onto God's promises for your teen. Reach out to other moms that have gone through similar experiences for advice and encouragement. Brighter days are just around the horizon. "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6–7

So be encouraged, keep praying, keep reaching out, and showing your teen you will always be there for them. They will come back around!

~Juanita Lewis